Let me give you a picture of undisciplined emotions.
Imagine, you are at a wedding, held in a large hall and, there are children present – lots of them. The children find themselves in a large space, they know, they should behave themselves (especially in their smart clothes), but there is all this space and other kids, woohoo, the temptation is too much. It’s time to run amok!
Undisciplined emotions remind me of children that have no supervision at all or at least, slipped or avoided the guidance of their parents even for a short period.
Left unattended our emotions can run riot and, if we don’t discipline them chances are, we will bear the consequences, long after our anger or outburst has dissipated.
Let’s look at a few examples of the consequences of undisciplined emotions in the workplace:
The health visitor
A health visitor slammed the desk in a temper. In the process, she hit a health care assistant. She was disciplined and, dismissed. Her dismissal was upheld on appeal and, she lost her tribunal claim.
The senior manager
Who was well known for his ill-temper damaged his professional relationships and affected his career
The senior manager
The colleague who swore
A colleague swore at her peer. Her colleague whipped her head around and said “Excuse me? No, don’t ever swear at me again.” The colleague who swore lost the respect of her peer.
The elephant in the room
Undisciplined behaviour rarely happens unknowingly; more often than not, it is tolerated rather than nipped in the bud with clear standard-setting and expectations. Consequently, undisciplined emotions have an individual, team and organisational cost.
Help is at hand
If you have a problem with undisciplined emotions you can access:
- Self-help books / podcasts
- Employee assistance scheme – some employers have confidential services that provide up to six sessions of free counselling sessions
- Pastoral support
- Your GP
Remember as challenging as it may be and oftentimes is; our emotions are subject to our control. Let’s do our very best to keep it that way.
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